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Posted in Communications, Men&Women, psychology, Relationships with tags , , , , , on September 2, 2011 by ichas8440

Chops, what images come to mind when this word is heard?  Thinking meat?  Focus way too narrow, I have a suggestion.  Expand your imagination increasing the depths of perception.  “Chops, hummm, let me see, if I say that I’ll probably date myself, but…”  Okay, good consideration even if you’re limiting yourself.  Try this, don’t concern yourself with thoughts of your age, it’s nothin’ but a number.

Chops like many words come with various applied meanings, all depending on the culture of origin.  In your case, “Chops” isn’t used by me to define a mad man skilled in the art of Tommie-gun usage.

Those who are willing to explore the foggy depths of consciousness while visions of the latest version of ultra-clubs comes into scope along with images of patrons morphing into clarity while evaporating just as quickly.  You are partially on the right road to the connection mentally illustrating images of Chops!  As well, seeing you’re in the ultra-club mode, and I followed, let’s bring into focus things noir.  Oh…  While doin’ so, drop the generic violent characterization associated with the same but…  You may allow for the mysterious component coming with all things noir.  That, I’m cool with.

As I was contemplating the designs of this universe I happened to noticed someone watching me.  Although she; oh yeah, personal sensitivity head trips aside, I don’t do same-sex.  Had this observer who was stealing my energy been another guy who kept me in the focus of his eye, believe me I would have changed the viewer’s perception immediately.

Like I said, she was watchin’ me with those intensely inviting, mentally provocative eyes, implying ways she could only imagine.  And, doing that occasional hair toss accordingly.  Sorta’ like one of those Althea Adams prose, “I don’t care how you get there just get there when you can”.  Un-be-knowing to her, I had already been there while watching her demean her mate over and over again.  Demanding that he “fetch” her things and…  When he did so with head bowed, shuffling his feet with each step he made in the sand, she never was satisfy.  Yet, “Herman”, did and without complaint.  All this compliance was relaxing to my mind as it solidified my choice of personality traits that I’d accepted long ago as my preference in being me!

Un-scripted Herman and I appeared at the same moment over to one of the boardwalk vendors, and he…  Yes, I seldom start convo so yes, he started this one.  Herman smiled and engaged me in a simple exercise of male to male communications about how we men do what we do when it comes to our women.  I listened, vanquishing invisible flying objects out of my air space, but…  Herman soon got my message and realized I didn’t give and credence to his bullshit.  This entire exercise was his way towards re-establish his manhood in the eyes of those he’d assumed; watched.

I don’t do appeasement so Herman, in his assumption believing I was listening to him, waiting for that audible pause where sound suspends and one can “exchangin’ cards” because of some kindred spirit thing.  He was fooliln’ himself.  Herman was whipped, Gameless and…  To put it in layman terms, no copping skills.  Herman was a Lackey.

The word Lackey much like Chops shouldn’t be open to any sort of interpretation, just as this term I hear slung freely today.  Used by so called women with alleged “swagger”, “Turn me out Daddy”.  Turn me out should not and can’t be flipped to fit the times.  Just as “bitch” isn’t some super descriptive term, fittingly applied in recognition of a woman who welds power and…  Re-conformed to apply to the connivin’ creatures assigned to the female lot also!  Herman, in his quest to be obliging had become lost in his wonderment of the pleasures of a woman, and in his psychological confinement, settled.  Yes, I surmised all of this outta one casual encounter.  A simple scenario taking place on a seashore, reconfigured while inserting some of what I knew of FOLK and came up with this.

Fear is best described as “False Evidence Appearing Real”.  Herman was counterfeit.  Created something out of another things that was only real to him.  He allowed his woman way too many privileges resulting in her own, fractured reality where he had been reduced to an object.  Sexist comin’ up again?  No, this is a result of knowing ones place.

People in their attempt to fit in usually go for anything, and…  As I contemplated Herman’s woman’s’ advances.  Yeah, did you think I didn’t!  In that moment of “slippage”…  Okay, maybe a case of temporary lust like you’re thinking but…  It wasn’t difficult to assess she was the type to approach, play polite while gathering Intel on whomever she set her eyes on.  After enjoying the pleasures sought, remove her self from the situation all the while blaming it all on the person she engaged!

Ladies & Gents, I am Chops.  I can talk the talk and walk the walk.  In my explorations of this world I’ve discovered that it is I who will quickly be labeled.  Is this reason to complain?  No, recall as you dial it down, I am Chops.

Chops could imply meat-eater, which I like.  Chops can and does signify a choice cut.  I stand accepting each positive definition.  In all words where voice can be established, Chops conjures up an image of the one who is verbally precise and…  Visually stimulating to the point of placing another into anything.  Usually zones of enchantment.   Much like women who engage, enjoy realizing they themselves are overmatched, followed with a frantic outsourcing for that standard rescue.

Where I’m concerned, when women blame me for any of their faults, I see it as out classed and inasmuch, maybe I shouldn’t have set my sights so low.  Also, that is maybe why I’ve passed on so many I’ve met even on the tiny secluded stretch of sand along the fogged-in cove, creating the inlet in which I encountered Herman along with his significant other.

Hummm, “angry bird?  No, that’s an app best found on smartphones for those who find themselves with way too much time on their hands.  I fly high, but…  No angry bird.  Recently an Ex power couple “Marc Anthony & Jennifer Lopez” split.  Comin’ outta the clouds Marc Anthony made a statement to the media saying, “The marriage no longer worked”.  This was so profound.  Two people, speaking the same language but of different culture upbringings, sophisticated enough to call it the way it was.  Avoiding what was wanted of those on the outside looking in.  Whoa.

In maintaining a relationship between He&She you’ve gotta respect the subtle differences between “domination and decency”.  To keep the relationship live you’ve gotta know when to domination while exercising your power base and not diss your significant other.  Despite the two of you coming from different camps the vibes are the same or similar.

Something y’all need to know.  Collective I’ve received e-mails saying I am full of myself.  The correct personality classification would be narcissistic, and…  Like I responded then I do so now, I like it.  Many of you don’t know me and only have impressions of whom & what I’m about.  Still, when you go to a Therapist they have ways in which to lead you to see yourself so that you may better appreciate yourself while re-learning to live with yourself.  Yeah, I said it and yes I know that previously I defined therapist in a not so positive light.  My point is, live, grow and if you wanna advance.  Accept that some things cannot be left in their initial classification.  But…  I am still Chops.  The definition will remain constant, especially when and if you allow for the expansion of the origin of the root definition!

Psssss; I think now that I’ve “re-charged” I will go into realms many may cring from but…  Well, stay tuned because “Blast” may become a series.  In anticipation, don’t even think about assuming who will and won’t be featured.  Remember, Chops?  Well in channeling all those characters in arriving at where I’m at today.  Everybody is suspect.


She, Her & I. Pedigees…

Posted in Communications, Men&Women, psychology, Relationships with tags , , , , , , , on May 24, 2011 by ichas8440

Let me see, the world was ‘pose to end this past weekend, but it didn’t.  Whoa.  The Terminator aka Arnold, aka The Govenator became The Sperminator when it was finally accept that he was dipping outside of his defined pool; compliments of Maria.  And…  As the issue was taken up via the T.V. series known as (The View) with the pic of the other woman being shown world-wide for the millionth time, well.  That’s when the savage erupted out of Western society via the seated audience.  Seems Arnold’s choice of female fatale wasn’t what anyone wanted her to look like.  Exactly, the audience gave a collective “uggh”  when they saw Mildred on national T.V. .  Well again I say whoa!

Since I’ve been running this blog I’ve realized everybody wants topics with scintillating injections.  Okay, I can do this because my desire to remain “outta the loop” in the sense as being willing to bring it as I know it, this…  Need for scandal doesn’t present any prob. for me.

My take on “Cougars” gained international attention.  The Cougar topic road in behind “Office Romance” another thing I did outside the normal channels in which things are spoken about.  Now I step with “Power Couple Splits”.  I had no intentions of serializing this topic, but…  With how Mildred has been made out as this creepy, side-winding vile creature.  One that ruined the lives of one of Americas’ “hands off couples”; I’ve gotta speak on it.

One thing that stands out with Arnold, Maria & Mildred isn’t the whole threesome thing but.  The re intro of the existence of the caste system.  A way of living that hasn’t been exiled like many would want to believe.

My own FOLK have asked me how could Arnold do Mildred when he had Maria and what could she, “Mildred” possibly have in a physical sense of…  Attraction?  When I heard this I knew it wasn’t about her looks alone but her station in life was the bigger part for all the hate!

Psychologist, Social therapist, law enforcement, Lawyers, Clerics, everybody is rallying around Maria, discussing the negative effects all this is gonna have on her kids.  The masses are speaking about Arnold’s toxic future and how long they anticipate it’s gonna take for him to bounce back politically and entertainment wise, but.  All Mildred gets is a collective “uggh”.  Media focus has been on Maria & Arnold with all respect due & assumed.  As for Mildred or “Patty” as she is affectionately referred to, isn’t even spoken about in the same equation.  Hummm, I’m wondering who is it the masses think they are associated with in all this; scintillation?

The perceived pedigree, un hum.  Arnold and Maria are the “flava’ of the day” while Mildred is being avoided like the plague where the masses are concerned, and…  Where the actually focus within all this should be directed at, it isn’t.  I wonder…  Yes I wonder. Who’s living in an artificial world?

In doin’ this in Real Time comin’ at ‘cha with Real Talk I’ve gotta do a serial thing with this…  Assumed Pedigree.

Touching on the issue regarding looks once before, I didn’t take it to the point of including geographical considerations when assigning value and importance with looks.  Mildred was said to be from Guatemala, fiftyish and married.  The region historically produces workers for many of the Western Societies households.  As for age, it depends on the quality of life one had before age is reduced to a negative factor.  Still, Mildred equals worker; so what!  Mildred, aka “Patty”, female; woman with thoughts intentions and desires just like Maria but… Mildred doing what she did would never be forgiven, accepted or valued like Maria.

Maria, “mad money family” where the males within the FAM constantly do promiscuity as if they’ve invented it, that is…  If you keep up on the media releases, but…  Ain’t nobody willing to factor this into Maria’s perception of life and how things go when consider He&She.  Still, Maria is sainted and looked upon as she who isn’t a part of this public show.  Even Oprah got into it with her divisional thang when Maria appeared on Oprah’s going off the air special, still.  This doesn’t alter what is which is, pedigree personified!

Male & Females seem to wanna be divided and it can always be traced to this caste system.  Oprah is rich but she isn’t wealthy.  Wealth is defined by money kept and time in The Game as in category.  Oprah has been granted an exception but by who?  Kennedy being Maria is wealth based on money that became power, passed down by a  more powerful lineage who saw and understood what could come when and if they applied it right.  But…  This insight seems to have missed a generation, namely Maria’s and you know why?  Looks!  Physical looks will always play a role in how you will be perceived and accepted by peers, circle of appointment and FAM members.  Maria was born into money but Maria looks no better than Mildred.  Realistically, internationally, locally or actually.  Nothing separates them where men are concerned because they each have that same…  Shall I say; part!

The audience on The View only spoke what they know as the truth when it comes to looks.  It’s like this, I’m certain many of those who went “uggh” had the same term expressed to them way before Mildred’s face was captured in the monitor that day, but…  The audience like all people wants to be with the in-crowd.  Everybody wants to think they are with the pedigree that is perceived to be “it”.  Well guess what?  Maria is with the “IT CROWD” but does she actually reflect the physical images of that crew?  No one is willing to say it publicly but you all know what I’m sayin’, even if you side-step it.

Something else.  Arnold isn’t absolved from any of this either.  His background includes generations of Nazism that no one will speak about.  Also, a woman by the name of Gigi Goyette Jeffers, think (Little House  on The Prairie T.V. show) was 16 when she stated having sex with Arnold who…  At the time was kicking 28 all in the rear.  Then, because it was so good to both of ‘em they kept it up years later as Maria slept down the hall in another hotel room where Gigi had a room, but…  Nobody is talking about the moral violations against Gigi or criminal allegations as a result of this past lifestyle.

Oh yes, in California there is no “consent” law when a female is under the age of 18, no matter the circumstances if and when sex is involved.  Gloria Allred the Attorney has been retained by Gigi and Gloria’s people have said they have no intentions of blasting Arnold’s business about town, but…  By releasing this info which Gloria’s people have had to investigate, they now know they have Arnold’s full attention.  Hummm, what does this “pedigree” thing define?

John Connolly journalist “Premiere’s 2001” & John Carroll former Editor for The L.A. Times had Arnold’s well documented transgressions down years ago but…  The story was killed because…  Arnold was now with and of the right pedigree.  Today when these media people were polled as to their opinions both said the story isn’t new or news.  The publics’ impression has shifted because there is a scandal factor being superimposed.  What scandal?  The fact that as governor of cali Arnold couldn’t balance the books and get the budget straight or.  Arnold and his crew with their penchant for maintaining street cred manipulated the masses with an over the top Hollywood style presentation as he…  Re-established another image of another level of his…  Pedigree!

A great U.S. general “Douglas MacArthur” once said, “A Warrior prays for peace”.  When I heard this I knew the man had lived the life he personified.  Had to in order to be able to arrive at such a significant conclusion.  I am The 22nd G, I play to win and if by chance I loose, I still win because I have learned from my days of…  Well to complete this sentence using the correct analogy from the culture I’ve stepped from as in lived…  That would be to say I was once a Player, a Being who engages others for personal gain. But hey…  Isn’t that what everybody does?  Engages another for personal gain even if it requires crossing; pedigree lines.

In dialogue with another about this topic she sat with me as we explored most of the aspects this issue has unveiled.  Raising one eyebrow as if to prepare for something, nonchalantly she says.  “People are so disrespectful when it comes to others feelings.  Maybe Maria thought she was the one to change Arnold.  Maybe she was from a class that looked the other way for years when it came to their men’s indiscretions, but…

She left me hangin’ on this and I sorta knew it was comin when she said, “but”.  No matter, I did understand where she was going.  Some would say in a situation such as this, Arnold is at fault because he played with the hired help.  Abusing his power, a power that he sought and enveloped when he married Maria.  One who was definitely above his class.  Hummm, there goes that class thing easily aligning itself with power.  So now I say, tell me something, how do you make power and class work when each intoxicates while corrupting with a high degree of finite? No answer?  Don’t trip, I’ve got ‘cha.

Whenever one cross a border with the desire of attracting while interesting another don’t forget certain things when it’s about the sexes.  From a worker to those who hire the workers, each still has the same feelings when emotions are aroused!

Pedigrees, where all this began.  Poodles sniff at Doobies, Pit Bulls feel isolated just like Labs who have fallen from the top pedigree in the chain.  So what, all dogs go woof!                 

Psssss; None of what has been said will change perceptions.  Straight up, any which way it lays, sex sells!  Mildred being a woman of 5 decades, Maria comin’ from old money and Arnold…  Hey, he’s an actor; what can you say or expect.  Expect this.  Life is sought in salacious doses.  That’s why when I write about things that others don’t wanna mention, I get a massive amount of hits…  It’s all about somebody’s character in assassination mode, remnants of those we have known or personally associated with and have had around us, but…  No one wants to say anything when someone else walks up and has boogers hangin’ out of their nose!