Do you know what a Symbolist does?  I didn’t know what it was or what they did either.  Luckily I had the pleasure of meeting someone who does this.  Much like a true to life Indiana Jones a Symbolist has extreme knowledge in the recognition, identification and deciphering of meanings that appear in symbols.  It was during my down time that I happened to encounter one while exploring the canyons above my home.

As I stood above these drawings etched out all over the cliff walls, I finally had someone who knew how to explain what it was I was looking at.  Prior to this point I always viewed these ancient designs as…  Well, ‘ol school graffiti.  Whoa, way off!  Petroglyphics would be the correct term of what appeared on the limestone walls.  Drawings with some being actual rock carvings, all mediums telling the story of a people, their culture and environments.  Yea, my Symbolist could get this from knowing what the symbols meant.  I had been on a singular level while the Symbolist went way deeper.

“So, how can I help you with your relationship”

Let’s start at the beginning.  Looking for generic advice?  Go find one of those wanna be experts.  I specialize, a Specialist isn’t into generic anything.  To help another the one sought out to provide assistance must have precise knowledge of…  What’s real as in the actual dynamics of the union “you” have sought them out for consultation of.  In seeing the need to address what you feel is all messed up, you’ve gotta come correct.  Not just speaking while offering your version of what is!  Its like this, your spin is ok, but…  With a Specialist they see the true picture way before you put in your coloring and it has nothing to do with pre-judging.  It’s all about the preparations towards readiness.  Remember back in another blog I touched on the differences between being prepared and ready?  Follow me down this Yellow Brick Road and don’t assume anything ’til…  Well, just read and follow, read and follow.

The phone was on vibrate.  Because I was enjoying my meal the tingling sensation would subside momentarily as the phone would eventually be answered automatically by my service.  Meal done and a tasty one if I say so myself, I glanced down to review my message.  It wasn’t a text but a voice mail.  Her words were, “Help Me”.  Since I was no longer that Very Very Bocacious Guy but now the guy who went good, there was no way I was gonna delete this short message without…  Yes, I got back to the caller immediately.

Number in, phone ringing, we went through the quick formalities of exchanging names.  The messenger who left the previous message went deeper this time.  Her descriptive adjectives conveyed much.  “Help, I feel like I’m in a large bottle.  the cap is on.  Water is filling the bottle & I’m almost to the point where the water is at the base of my lips.  Please come quick!”

Don’t ‘cha just love the metaphors?  I do and completely understood the hidden meanings.  Here, allow me to transcribe.

“Large bottle”, an environment.  “Cap is on”, somewhere I thought I recognized but I’m in a very foreign situation.  “Water is filling the bottle”, I thought it was water but I quickly found out it wasn’t.  “At the base of lips”, in way too deep.  “Come quick”.  This is the best part of the encryption because it conveys so much about the actual state of this person’s being.

“Come quick”, she must be kidding.  She’s calling because of  her involvement in a relationship that previously satisfied some mysterious desire.  Now that she’s tasted that forbidden fruit she realizes she must abort mission and eject, but…  She knew this before she found herself in so deep ’til now…  Her fate is being sealed which…  Accounts for the substance she thought was water that is quickly closing close, to the base of her lips, (reads mouth).  A mouth that will soon to be silenced.  Shut permanently by the one she thought she knew but really didn’t know who now has no intentions of letting her go.  “It’s okay, I do this and fully understand that you don’t wanna just come out and say what is really goin’ on.”

In today’s world you can be with whomever you chose to be with.  Prob. #1, you forgot to consider that once you step out of your defined comfort zone it becomes a situation that is no longer all about you.  Big mistake, huge mistake.  Read this and think water.  Then see the oil seeping in with droplets of vinegar being added at a point in which you hadn’t even considered before you joined in the ride.

“Hey, he got all that out of this!  What if it’s just about two different cultures?” Good point, I can do this too.

Mixing races is cool, just don’t forget the blend that develops when you associate those two cultures.  Let’s do this, you have a person of Danish descent who locks down with one of color.  the two share much and do what they like.  Yet, they live in a world that is not theirs alone.  they are surrounded by Haters.  Those who speak of the non-published history’s of each of their individual past.  Right, planting seeds that will be germinated by human nature.  Society…  They are true pieces of work.  They come with issues and won’t stop ’til they bring you into their issues.  Don ‘t trip, this is what people do.

Oh, so you think you are immune to such a scenario?  You’ve got education and won’t stoop to such ignorance?  live in a quaint community, (reads gated areas).  Or you have that penthouse way up in the high-rise.  Safe zones hun…  Nope, guess again.  I don’t wanna see you being spat upon while believing that lie about it’s just rain, so check this out.  The public at large is way more savage than anyone wants to admit.  When the film drops (When People Attack While Going virtual) don’t miss it.

Now, to stay “in pocket” with this let’s kick it up a couple of digits by adding another factor to consider.  “Moms and Pops”, they  just ain’t hearing your argument about how great your choice in a mate is.  Alright, that is their hang up; so you say.  Welcome to Prob. #2.  Think DNA.  Oh you don’t have to carry the sins of the Father or suffer the faults of the Mother, but it’s in you regardless.  Consider where you were raised.  Was it in a 2 parent home?   Are you of the nevo-gen?  (See raised by extended FAM members or surrogate FAM friends).  Despite of where you may fall within any of these additions, all of this supports a part of your acquired characteristic behavioral make-up.  The point being, everything around you and associated with you creates a connection to you!

This isn’t a complicate thing.  Relationships.  Unions between He&She, marriages along with many of their individual dynamics and collectively displayed traits are easy to understand.  The simplicity is to just accept when you are in a Jungle or find yourself on the deck of a ship that has no Captain in Command.

Mixing cultures, trying out different races, dabbin’ in various religious beliefs in an effort to create your own special blend is cool.  Just remember when you are focused in getting it together the key to succeeding is to know that…  In order to establish your place in this great race, it all begins with the recognition and your independent understanding of the differences that make up this entire planet.

Psssss; Don’t trip, I do this.  Come in Japanese and I know enough about ‘cha to remove my shoes before coming into your home.  Bring it in Black and I really know that all of you don’t do Ghetto.  Make it in White and…  Yes, because of how this whole worldly thing has un-folded, I know that many of you feel entitled.  Sometimes to the point of assuming everybody else wants to be like you all.  But then again, I also have experienced enough of life to know that some of you are way cool and…  Well these are those who have the same swagger as I.  Which means we can do this thing called life together.

I am The 22nd G.  Sometimes I see you even before you get to me.  Peace


One Response to ““Help…””

  1. Crunchi Says:

    My comments on what you have posted. By the way, luv your blogs. This woman is in desperation of her involvement and wants someone to “bail” her out. Understanding and recognizing traits, habits, background of another person before engaging is more important now than ever before. Different cultures and/or religions are still not seen as equal in this world. Involvement with one of a different “make-up” will bring challenges one might not foresee at first. Whatever the relationship is going to be-be ware of all “sides” of the other. As much as you can. Thank you

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