“Inside track; you know. It’s when you know something others don’t. When you have it like this recognize and rise. Risk factors decrease and options exercised for success increase. And don’t even consider the Drama about anything being unethical, divisive tactics, plain and simple. This is a primary key unlocking emotional bonds which lead to a tight physical connection. And you know that’s what everybody is lookin’ for.”
Hot topic, hot topic, and… When considering the title nothin’ last for ever. But, transcend, push beyond the mundane foundational elements most relationships start from and “Forever And ‘Ah Day” as the term relates to the unification between He/She; all your mental impressions do last.
Everyone says there are a number of typical reasons causing a relationship to collapse. Money, In-laws, friends gettin’ in your business. Friends, Fam. sharing yours. Let’s not forget the professional differences such as the hours set aside to put in work so you can have some semblance of a life and so on and on, but… This, falls within the category known as “fluff“. Things, circumstances that are there and don’t need to be brought up while expanded upon.
Oh, movin’ ah bit too fast, there is something. When “She” draws down way more financially than you, don’t trip because this dynamic might not ever change. Fact is you are pre-programmed by the same social dynamics driving most negative aspects within any social construct. As far as runnin’ off at the mouth, blaming her for flaunting her financial superiority then hinting at the possibility of showing empathy. Imagining there’s the possibility for a psychological re-direct; forget it. Recall what you’ve already shown a penchant for. Dumb stuff!
Hummm, it will be what it is, She has a skill-set guaranteeing the higher income and truthfully… This being a unity between two, finances should be a formation building block.
Those of the male persuasion I kick it with and no this isn’t to imply an interest in diversionary activities such as homosexuality, bisexuality, poly anything. We come from men, understand who and what we’re about on various levels so… We don’t demand a ‘thang as much as command the attention of the woman who “ride and die” for us. A simple achievement when knowin’ who She is and what She means to the continuation of what “We” as a couple have created.
FOLK get caught-up in what’s going on next door, across the street, in another ‘hood and fail to recognize none of that is or should be what’s going on when it comes to establishing your reasons for steppin’ to and… Attracting the Object Of Your Hearts Desire.
Think “Playing it forward” because that’s what it is. Playing it forward I will equate like this. In line to purchase something with those behind you waiting patiently. You decide to pay for them too. This is, Playing it forward. A good thing but if you can’t really absorb such a move especially when you don’t know all that’s coming or may result in; why do it! The real is you have engaged in an endeavor totally outta your league. Much like relationships. He sees her, emotions run rampant, “Gotta have her gotta get that” and. Sometimes you can’t afford that and this isn’t limited to the money aspect of it. Flip the script and “She” is on deck. Spots him, heart doesn’t skip a beat but BEATS uncontrollably. “He is fine, he’s mine and don’t even know it but I’ll let him know“. Know what, you are so caught-up in the imagery ’til you have no idea of how your image has resonated within his mind!
“Poppin’ P’s here, poppin’ p’s”, and that’s just what it is. I’ve dipped into The Vault, dial it down or… As the trending term is, “Fall Back”.
Fall Back, for those who luv slinging the term but haven’t a clue of what discipline you’ve associated yourself with, check this. The phrase derives from military tacticians meaning to retreat because “you in way over your head“.
“Don’t panic, there’s light comin'”
Keep it Game Tight, step back and eval.. “Evaluate while remaining On Deck and consider your realistic options because when you retreat you’ve, for all intent and purposes, showed your back. Graphically and symbolically conveying to He/She that you have no plan of pursuit outside of “hittin’ it” (engage sexually) so why should they even; accept your approach.
“Over thinking, what too much analysis?”
Let me tell you something, Consciousness is not regulated to the mind. Your brain is where your thoughts converge, marinate and programs disseminate from. The brain houses your mind while Consciousness is you. Nothin’ Consciously calls for a long grasp. It is and will manifest once you let loose and rise with the feelin’.
Food For Thought, Source Code. Additional Eval. matter.
Conversations between He/She need to be… Inspiring. Make this connect entertaining and hold their attention by enlightening whomever it is you’ve stepped to. Back In The Day some said I always found a way to get deep when speaking to others. And! My thing was, “Why not”. Who likes to talk with a monster as in mono-toned to the degree of shifting the vibe because they’ve spoken in ways reflective of meeting something strange when stranded on a lonely dark road. Or, consider speaking with anyone so ugly they’ve scared the ones responsible for bringing ’em into all this. I… Take it to another level altogether. Sensual stimuli, delivered in a casual way with no projected sense of menace. I like stimuli and knew long ago that chemicals were released into my system based on how those same words impacted my psyche’. A naturally brewed cocktail. No need to step outside the body for this blend. When engaged in conversation and you’re capable of keeping it smooth a massive chemical dump begins. I’m talking about adrenaline, dopamine, endorphins, endocannabinoids, oxytocin, phenethylamine, prolactin, serotonin, testosterone, etc. etc. etc. The chemist will say these are the chemicals released after one has an orgasm. I see where their heads are and keep it coming.
Happiness, (dopamine). Another super chem. the type which lets you keep up with the worlds fastest human. A la Usain Bolt (adrenaline). Wanna really last forever (testosterone). Yes yes I see the immediate connection with the sexual boostability and conveniently intend to side step any secondary explanation. But… Such is life when you’ve decided to take the lead. You do it your way. Forget what is politically correct or culturally anticipated. Flip it and come correct because that’s what won’t be expected.
And now a moment to drift mentally.
Once upon a time while a goose drank wine, night fell and I found myself stuck at a friend’s home. Feeling tired it didn’t take much to convince me to spend the night. Preparing my place in front of the fireplace a friend of his significant other looking at me from around the corner didn’t want me to sleep alone. Seeing her drag her blanket and placing it beside me, I said. “I know you wanna have sex and that’s cool but I won’t have sex with you at least not tonight because… I hardly even know you and“.
The simplicity of my words along with the way it was said allowed her to see the humor. We talked, laughed and recognized there’s time for all things when you just let things blossom. The compulsion to… Didn’t occur, not even once. Okay, I thought about it. Couldn’t resist because of all the sexiness sorta’ easing from her as she sat across from me. Her chin propped up resting in her two palms. Smiling suggestively, consciously sending those vibes across the cosmic plane. Maybe all in my mind but you all weren’t there.
Point is, it’s not always about you or what you may want it to be. Relationships are about the joining. Advancing whatever it is you want it to be and not forcing a ‘thang.
Psssss; What, you thought because of the injection of military term I was gonna build this around celebs. currently getting mass media play. Capitalize on their philosophical interpretation. Why. A very influential and famous someone “Beyonce” said “There’s a soldier in here, where ‘da at where ‘da at” and it became the mantra for females globally. Many were lost in the intent of this metaphor. Maybe because life is about choices. Hummm… Check my analogy. “I… King. The Court sits within the Castle where the Kingdom resides. I… Only deal with Queen.“ Psychologically plays beautifully with the emotional palette too.